Sometimes, you find yourself getting so fed up with the human race and their endless emotional turmoil. There are times you find your counterparts' complaints and sensitive feelings petty and not worth a second of your time, especially when they seem to be constantly attacking you, your actions and your character. It's at times like these you feel as though you are better off alone and in certain cases, some might actually start to distance themselves from their friends, family or society in general (like a practice attempt to become a hermit :-D ).
Let's face it, friends fight, families argue, even unknown strangers can just ruin your entire day by being totally rude to you for no apparent reason. Some people are fortunate enough to not be bothered by this 'verbal diarrhea' (yes, this phrase does exist, ahaha, check it out here) or are too close to allow any quarrels to ruin their relationship. However, for others, there is a limit to how much verbal and emotional abuse they can take before they snap, either by retorting or by isolating themselves.
Yes, humans can be boring, constantly repeating their woes, their stresses. Humans can be 'so lah drama' (so true :laugh: ). Humans can be insensitive to the feelings of others, only paying attention to their need to vent to anyone, even if that unfortunate person doesn't deserve it. We can go on and on about the negativity of the human race, BUT...that is part of what we are, it is a no-refund-or-exchange package of a human. We cannot totally absolve our emotional trauma, we can only hope to squash it a little or learn to control it better. Some are able to do it better than most or are only able to do so after years of trial and error while some just simply don't bother.
I've had my fair share of being the brunt of people's verbal diarrhea; sometimes it's just them letting out some steam but more often than not, it's a 'constructive conversation' (a polite term of 'critical continuous attack' ) on my being. I wish they would just take a step back and look at themselves first before they keep pointing out my flaws. I'm not perfect but then again.....neither are you.
Attempting to see the positive side of it is not easy so I prefer thinking of a more humorous side of this particular situation, which I find much much easier to handle. :giggle: I remember this story I read in Robert Allen's '365 Pep Talks from Buddha' and I quote:-
Two monks were disputing an obscure point of the dharma. One began to get angry and, as he made his points, his voice got louder and louder. At last the other said, "I admit that your arguments are sound." Satisfied, the belligerent monk walked off. "Nothing but sound," muttered the other monk to himself.
It's true that most emotional outbursts are just sounds and it's true that any words we deem unworthy of our time or unsuitable for our 'delicate' ears are just noise, but it's more about how we handle our own drama and how we handle hearing other people's drama. I try to use humour to diffuse negative feelings whenever I'm confronted by people. 8-) Here's hoping that you have your own, and perhaps better, way of dealing it.
