'Sisterhood'

Anyone who has watched the comedy series 'How I Met Your Mother' (which is awesome, by the way), would know what I'm talking about when I mention 'The Bro Code' *cue dramatic music*.

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Neil Patrick Harris plays the playboy Barney Stinson who created this rule book for all men, which covered almost every situation under the sun, and was titled as The Bro Code *cue dramatic music again*. Anyway, one code that caught my attention was in Season 3, episode 17, where Barney said, "The Bro Code clearly states, 'No sex with your bro's ex.'" That got me thinking, maybe we should make a Bro Code for women.

Why? Because just like some men, some women seem to have no boundaries when it comes to relationships. The first and foremost rule for the 'Chick Code' (still working on the title) should be 'No affairs with any man who is married or currently in a relationship', which should be applied across the world, not just limited to the people you know.

There have been many times when conversations turned to men who cheat, how they tricked and lied to their spouses/partners just to have an affair, a mistress or a second, third, fourth, how many more, wife. However, women who have complained about these men should also look at the women involved in these two-timing sessions.

I will never understand how a woman could even think about stealing another woman's man. There are SOOOOO many single men out there, why must you go after or entertain or flirt back with a man who already has a partner?

Some women reasoned that the man was the one who chased after them. Others often said, "But I truly love him." Some claimed that it was just an innocent fling. A few cruel ones answered, "All's fair in love and war." I admit there were times when I wasn't a loyal girlfriend. I have had my own share of affairs and cheats (usually because my ex-boyfriends treated me like dirt) but I am proud enough to say that I have never went out on a date or had a relationship with a taken man. Once I find out that the man has a girlfriend (I'll never go out with a married man), boom, that's it, adios, amigo. I may cheat but I won't hurt another woman in the process. Hurting the man is bad enough.

My step-mother knew that my father was married yet she and her family still went ahead to pursue and 'persuade' my father into marrying her. I had a friend who complained about my ex-boyfriend constantly when I was still in a relationship with him, only to up and date him after we broke up (this doesn't really count because we broke up but it's still a sign of betrayal between fellow chicks). I know people who are dating married men (dating as in watching movies and holding hands, not going out for innocent drinks at mamak stalls) fully aware that these men have a wife. I also know women who know that the guy has a girlfriend yet they still chase after him with the stupid reason, "They're not married so it's fair game."

I also hate people answering, "But they aren't happy with each other anyway" when they try to 'legitimate' their actions. Excuse me, but unless they are truly broken up and categorize themselves as single or divorced with fully signed papers and all, then fine, you can stick in your desperate nose and cling your sticky claws into the man. But before that, he is still another woman's man.

I believe in karma; you do something bad, something equally bad or worse will happen to you.  Look at me, I cheated on my ex-boyfriend and sure enough, my next boyfriend cheated on me; it's karma, fair and square.

I'm writing this post because I am worried. Someone I personally know is going out with a married man and what's worse is that she knows he's married. If the man were to ever divorce his wife and marry her, how can she be sure that he won't do the same to her later on? How can she live with herself, knowing that she is part of a reason behind a divorce?  Or is she willing to be a second wife, or God forbid, a mistress? If I myself am feeling ashamed at her actions, how would her family feel?

Seeing how my mom suffered because of some floozy waltzing into my father's arms (and stupid father who agreed to marry her) and seeing my aunts who experienced the same thing with their husbands made me hate affairs. I don't ever want to see that hurt on any girl's face, married or not. I hope 'she' realizes in time that she's hurting a wife and mother before it's way too late.